The Parents' Page
by Jo Jones
[Link directly to David Jones.]
was born on 26 April 1935 at 99 Rylands Road in Southend-on-Sea, Essex,
England, to Lilian and William Fraser. I was christened Carole Maud.
I have an older sister, Shirley Anne. I was nick-named after Joey,
the family cat, and for many years was "Jo" at home and "Carole" outside
the family. It was not until I was in my fifties that I decided to
deal with this anomaly, and underwent a formal name change to "Jo Carole
I grew up in an extended family of many cousins, aunts and uncles, and
lived in Edgware for most of the war. My father, a skilled tool and
die maker, worked on Spitfire aircraft engines at the DeHavilland plant
there. Towards the end of the war, when the V1 and V2 rockets became
a serious threat, Shirley and I were sent to stay on a farm in Lincolnshire
for a few months.
When I was nine years old I wrote my first will. Two of the major
elements were that I would go to America and that I would marry a millionaire!
The first came true; the second did not. But from a very early age
I wanted to travel and see the world. I began to fulfill that dream
at the age of fourteen, when I made my first unaccompanied visit to France,
to stay with a French family for six weeks during the summer. Thus
developed my francophilia, and I continued the annual exchanges with their
daughter until I left high school.
Since most of my mother's family lived in Southend, after the war we
had moved back there, and I spent the remainder of my school years in that
town, eventually becoming (by turn) House Captain, Vice-Games Captain and
Head Girl at Southend High School for Girls.
After graduation from high school, I went to Westfield Ladies' College
(University of London) in Hampstead, and completed my B.A. with honours
in Modern Languages (French and Italian). I then joined Pan American
World Airways, and flew around the world for two-and-a-half years as a
flight attendant. [Son's note: I will always remember looking
through the old photo albums with Mom in her flight uniform, posing with
famous people of the day, including David Niven and Zsa-Zsa Gabor.
And the tale she told of Marlon Brando's "approach" as she was warming
milk in the galley always left me wide-eyed.]
In August 1962, I married David G. Jones, a Flight Lieutenant in the
Royal Air Force Regiment. I gave birth to two sons - Adam Jason in Singapore
(1963) and Craig Elton in England (1965). David's final posting was
to Ottawa, Canada, and as a result of our time there, we decided to emigrate
to Canada when he left the Air Force. We became landed immigrants
in 1971 and came to live in Vernon, British Columbia. We took out
citizenship papers four years later.
Philosophical and Ethical Beacons
My definition of success involves being committed, empathetic and zesty
in close, honest relationships, while in pursuit of challenge, laughter
and good mental and physical health. I am a political liberal, a
committed feminist, and am dedicated to loving others in my life, decency
in my dealings with people, and life-long learning and teaching.
I love: thinking, hugs, babies, laughter, puppies, good conversation, Jane
Austen, good food (as long as I don't have to prepare it), Mozart and Bach,
walking during a storm. I dislike: hypocrites, religious and political
bigots, huge corporations, people who are deliberately unkind, hot weather,
cold weather, iced coffee and slash burning.
Although I grew up a member of the Church of England, I gradually found
myself withdrawing from organized religion as I came to understand the
patriarchal (at that time) structure of the church. By the time I
left High School I was well on the way to becoming an atheist, though the
basic precepts of Christianity are the ones by which I try to live my life.
[Son's Note: Ditto.] I still long to be able to go and listen
to a profound moral message without having first to submit to the dogma
1974 - Pre-M.L.S., University of Washington, U.S.A.
1971 - B.Ed., University of Ottawa
1958 - B.A. Honours, University of London (UK); Modern Languages Scholarship;
Senior Exhibition; State Scholarship - Herbert Arthur Dowsett Scholarship
(for Modern Languages)
1957 - Pre-B.A., Università di Perugia (Summer School - Italian)
1955 - Pre-B.A., Université de Grenoble (Summer School - French)
- Hobnobbing with a Countess and Other Okanagan Adventures: The Diaries of Alice Barrett Parke. Vancouver, BC: University of British Columbia Press, 2001.
- "A Hardier Stock of Womankind: Alice Barrett Parke in British Columbia." In Framing Our Past: Canadian Women's History in the Twentieth Century. Montreal: McGill-Queen's University Press, 2001.
- "Young Mr. Norris." Okanagan History, 64 (2000), pp. 94-103.
- "Mr. Byam's Bones." Okanagan History, 63 (1999), pp. 126-133.
- "Little Known Pioneers: The Parkes of Vernon." Okanagan Historical Society Report, 62 (1998), pp. 20-33.
- "Arthur Byam's Bones: A Strange Case of Synchronicity." The Falkland Islands Journal, 7: 2 (1998), pp. 113-117.
After publication of Hobnobbing with a Countess in Fall 2001, all documents used by Jones in her research relating to Alice Barrett Parke will be housed in the Greater Vernon Museum and Archives (3009 - 32nd Avenue, Vernon, BC, V1T 2L8). This collection will include artifacts, data, maps, photographs, genealogies, letters, transcriptions, indexes, a footnote database and many other documents.
Recent Career Experience
1989-1995: School District 22 (Vernon), Beairsto Elementary French Immersion
1985-1989: INK ink., Calligraphy Company (Proprietor)
1971-1985: School District 22 (Vernon), Vernon Secondary School: Teacher-Librarian,
Theatre Coach, Glee Club
Talking Heads, The Vagina Monologues, Widows (by Ariel Dorfman), Harvey, Fiddler on the Roof, Arsenic and Old Lace, The Cocktail Hour,
Lunch Hour, Requiem (Mozart), Moments (Dinner Theatre), Midsummer
Night's Dream, Old Mother Hubbard (Pantomime), Fools, Babes in the
Magic Wood (Pantomime), There Goes the Bride, Tribute, Fiddler on
the Roof, I Never Sang for My Father, Messiah (Handel), Mary Stuart,
Finishing Touches, The Cell, Oliver!, Butterflies Are Free, Macbeth, Tom
Jones, Gloria (Vivaldi), The Pajama Game, The Mikado, Orpheus in
the Underworld, H.M.S. Pinafore, La Guerre de Troie n'Aura Pas Lieu, You
Never Can Tell.
Hay Fever, Later Life, Elephant Shoes, H.M.S. Pinafore, The Hand that Cradles the
Rock, The Dining Room (Winner of six of the eight major awards at Theatre
B.C. Mainstage '87: Best Technical, Best Director, Best Actor, Best Costume
Design, Best Stage Management, Best Production), The Trojan Women, No
Sex Please, We're British, Butterflies Are Free, Summer of the Seventeenth
Doll, Footsteps of Doves
Singing: Trained mezzo voice. First singing performance in public
at age three.
Dancing: Ballet, Tap Dancing, Jazz, Musical Comedy.
Piano: To Grade 7 - Royal Academy of Music.
Accents: British - Plain, Cockney, Oxbridge, Scots, Welsh, Irish, Yorkshire,
Other: Mid-Atlantic, North American, Newfoundland, U.S. Deep South, French,
Italian, German, Scandinavian, Australian.
Early sports activities: Tennis, rounders, netball, field hockey, cricket (all for school and college squads); cycling. Today: Walking, music, computer card games, reading, handicrafts (make most of
my own clothes), calligraphy, small-scale desktop publishing.
England, Canada, United States, Germany, France, Holland, Belgium, Italy,
Mexico, Turkey, Pakistan, India, Thailand, Singapore, Hong Kong, Japan,
United States, Fiji, Australia, New Zealand, Wake Island, Guam, Hawaii,
Member of Powerhouse Theatre, Okanagan Symphony Choir, Aura Chamber Choir,
Okanagan Library Committee, Okanagan University College Advisory Committee
(Chairperson), EXPO 86 Publicity Committee, Vancouver Children's Festival
(Media Relations), Women in Business, Greater Vernon Chamber of Commerce
(Director). Volunteer at the Vernon Museum & Archives.
Host of VERNON REVIEW, weekly T.V. current events program (VERCOM Cable
11). (Son's Note: And she had me on as a guest!)
Who is David G. Jones?
Photo at right: David Jones (with spade) heads to the seaside
with family, circa 1938 (for more on Alfred George Jones, his father, see No
Man's Land: The Battlefields of Northern France).
Recipe. Take a bright and healthy child. Entrust
him to poor and hardworking parents, and older siblings. Raise him
in late-Depression and wartime England, in the Green Belt around southern
London. Give him adequate food, conscientious teachers, a simple
religion, lots of exercise, and a clear idea of his place in society.
Expect him to earn his keep: let him stay at school until he is 16, then
send him to work. Let him see death and sorrow, and let him cry.
Let him know freedom, love and exultation, and make him accountable for
Enlist him in the RAF [Royal Air Force]. Acknowledge his potential,
and give him authority over his elders. Teach him a hundred arcane
skills, send him to a dozen strange places, challenge every ability he
might have, and make him proud. Give him a few close friends and
unlimited loyal comrades. Let him tilt at windmills. Forgive
his exuberance. After 21 years, let him go in peace (make him wait
for his pension!).
Give him girls to frolic with, and a beautiful woman to wed.
Entrust him with sons, so that he may learn from them.
Find him a new career that tests his integrity: let him enjoy wealth,
and survive its loss without rancour. Arrange his time so that work,
recreation and community involvement blend seamlessly into a rounded life.
Encourage him to strut his stuff, as an actor, teacher, builder, organiser,
and occasional shit-disturber. Let him discover that trust works
better than suspicion, that encouragement is more productive than criticism.
Acknowledge him. Hug him. Try to shut him up (occasionally).
Give him questions to live by. For example, "If not me, who?
If not now, when?" Keep him busy.
Love him if you can: if not, would it kill you to lie a little?
I suppose a person is best identified by what he believes. Here
I believe there is no God - although belief in one sure "got me through
the day" when I was young. I envy people with true faith.
I believe, consequently, that this life is all we have. Any immortality
is in those we have touched.
I hold that trusting others, and being dependable, is the most workable
position for me.
When I am "stuck," I ask this question: "What unique contribution can
I make, here and now?" It works for me.
I believe we are all lonely most of the time. Those brief episodes
of open, honest contact with another person are rare, precious, and impossible
to arrange - a gift from the gods (if gods there be).
I delight in being self-sufficient in practical matters, and in rescuing
others. I am happy at the end of a busy day, when I am physically
tired, and another project has been completed (but there must always be
another one in view ...)
I hope to live as long as I am a net contributor in some sense, and
to die before I become a nuisance. Meanwhile, there is much to be
I believe that women are fundamentally different from men - better
in many ways, and wiser.
I believe that the love of money is the root of all (? no, most) evil
- a useful lubricant, but a disastrous fuel. Buying something new
does not compare with the joy of making something old work again.
I think I have used the body I got well, and it has served me well.
My brain could have been put to better use (but at least I was smart enough
to marry a bright woman, and give birth to two sons who are using theirs
David Jones in the Amazon jungle, Ecuador, 1994.
London, England, 31 May 1932.
1937-43 - Church of England/Public Elementary
1943-48 - Wallington County Grammar School (scholarship)
1948 - London University Matriculation
1948-50 - Atlas Assurance Co. Ltd. (clerk)
1950-52 - National Service in RAF
1953-71 - RAF Regiment officer. Retired as Squadron Leader.
1971-73 - Towne Development Ltd. - Secretary (construction company)
1973-98 - Commercial Real Estate salesman/manager/seminar leader
1999-Present - Property manager, real estate consultant
Member, British Institute of Management
Fellow, Institute of Nuclear Engineers
Chartered Arbitrator (Canada)
Eva C. Innes Award, Canadian Arbitration Institute
Eric Hamber Trophy, Theatre B.C.
Rotary Paul Harris Fellow
Extended - France, Germany, Singapore, Zambia, Australia, USA
Visits - Holland, Denmark, Austria, Italy, Malaya, Thailand, Borneo, South
Africa, New Zealand, Fiji, Mexico, Costa Rica, Nicaragua, Ecuador, Kenya.
Current: Community theatre, Rotary.
Previous: Arts Council, Social Planning Council, City Alderman, newspaper columnist, OUC Advisory Council, Performing Arts Centre Board, Radiological Defence Officer, Okanagan Mainline Real Estate Board (Chairman), Theatre B.C. Director, Okanagan Symphony Choir, Sewage Reduction Task Force, City Tax Exemption Committee.
Early - cricket, soccer, cross-country running, cycling, alpine skiing,
squash, hiking, tennis
Later - racquetball, cross-country skiing, windsurfing, water-skiing
Latest - sailing, one parachute jump, weight training
Auto mechanics, crossword puzzles, fixing things.
Short stories, popular science, spy novels, real estate law, books written by Jo and the boys.